I am a marriage and family/play therapist, therapist supervisor, teacher, and adoptive father. In order to survive for long at any of these, you have simply got to be teachable. Constantly learning from my family, clients, interns, and students, I hope to pass some of their wisdom along to you.
In addition to those mentioned above, I am currently being properly schooled by my dog. Our sweet Angel came to our house as a rescue at the beginning of the year. Right away we began working with a trainer (the amazing Megan with The Stellar Dog) to establish skills for later therapeutic training. People...training a dog is a serious look in the mirror.
Angel's learning is 100% dependent on my intention, consistency, self-awareness, and patience. She can only be expected to repeat what I establish as patterns. I now see a one-canine parade reflecting my never-ending neuroses. At first, this made me incredibly self-conscious, which, of course, exacerbated the issue. Doing well by Angel required that I start to give myself grace and space for learning about my own tendencies. This it turns out would be the key.
As a believer in all things attachment-theory inspired, I should no longer be surprised by the phenomenon of my own personal growth being required in order to notice and allow for growth in others. This has been over and over again reinforced as truth in my work with clients, interns, my children, and now my dog. Angel is just my most recent reminder of the need for patiently pursuing my own self-betterment. As a show of appreciation, I hope to use this blog to look back on the various life-learning opportunities provided by so many over the years.
Check in from time to time...I hope to have offerings on a regular basis.
Reflections on lessons learned from being a therapist and adoptive dad.